Other Americans

Since the election, Americans on both sides of the political divide have been feeling deeply alienated and profoundly misunderstood. So we’ve been asking our listeners one central question: What’s the thing that you wish other Americans understood about you, that they don’t? 

In this live call-in special, Anna speaks with listeners about their answers to this question. Among the Americans we hear from are Kelly, a black woman in Portland, Oregon, who feels frustrated by the “smugness” of the white liberals she’s surrounded by and sometimes feels like she’s not being seen in her community; David, a first-generation Jewish American who was inspired by a recent white nationalist speech to wear a kippah for the first time in his adult life; Katherine, a Republican who’s tired of being labeled a racist and a bigot; and Jorge, who identifies as a progressive but wants other Americans to know that plenty of Latinos lean right politically. 

We also hear from Nora*, a Republican staffer on Capitol Hill who voted for Hillary Clinton and was shocked when Donald Trump won. “When I voted for Hillary…I did it completely against my own career interests,” Nora says. “There are so many people [on Capitol Hill] like me….We are simultaneously terrified of the uncharted unknown but also really excited to…do what we envision for the country.” 

This call-in special is part of The United States of Anxiety, WNYC’s election series. Find out more about the series here

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Harvard Women Speak Out Against Sexual Objectification

It seems that every year there is another report of a group of male college students ranking their female peers on a scale of attractiveness or creating a game out of having any form of sexual contact with them. This […]

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What Money Can’t Solve

On November 2, 1983, Darrell Cannon was woken up by the Chicago police banging on his door. He knew the drill. As a longtime gang member, run-ins with the cops were common. He’d already served more than a decade behind bars for a murder conviction.

But that day, something unexpected happened: Darrell says the cops tortured him while they were questioning him. During the torture, Darrell confessed to a crime that landed him back behind bars for 24 years. 

This didn’t just happen to Darrell. Between the 1970s and the 1990s, more than 100 people—most of them black men—say they were tortured too. The city of Chicago has officially acknowledged that this happened. Earlier this year, the city approved a $5.5 million reparations package to 57 of the people who suffered at the hands of the police. 

Planet Money reporter Noel King interviewed Darrell shortly after he picked up his reparations check earlier this year. She shared his story as part of a larger Planet Money episode called “Paying for the Crime.” And today, in collaboration with Planet Money, we’re sharing more of Darrell’s story with you. It’s a story about money—and the things that money can’t solve.

“I hate ’em,” Darrell says. “That ain’t never gonna change.”

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No. 17 Bendable Twist Waterproof Silicone Vibrator by Black Door

from I wish there was a sufficiently succinct way to describe toys-that-I-won’t-call-worthless-because-they-work-for-clitoral-stimulation-but-I-intended-to-use-them-internally. I mean, that’s pretty long-winded. Long, too, is the list of toys that fit this. Their shape or vibrations just don’t do it for my G-spot, but the shape generally works well enough to provide me with a clitoral orgasm. I tend to […]

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If You’re Not ____, Then Never Mind

Actor Amy Landecker got divorced in 2011. “It was the worst time of my whole life,” Amy says. “People told me it was going to get better and I didn’t believe them.” Amy and her ex-husband share custody of their daughter, and Amy struggled with being away from her for days at a time. “I would watch Louie, there was this one episode in particular where, when his kids would leave he would eat doughnuts, get high and want to kill himself,” Amy remembers. “I was just so comforted. Because I was like, ‘That’s how I feel.'” 

Amy’s 47 now, and says the pain of her divorce has eased as time has passed. In the past few years, she’s found breakout success in her role as Sarah, the oldest sister on the series Transparent. That’s also how she met her boyfriend, actor Bradley Whitford. “My daughter was worried that I was gonna be alone and…she was like, let’s just make a list of the qualities that we’re looking for,” Amy laughs. “So she takes out this piece of paper and she titles it, ‘If You’re Not This, Then Never Mind.'” Soon after that, Amy met Bradley—who met a lot of their requirements. “I wanted him to like cats and dogs,” Amy says. “Bradley has both, which is very rare.” 

For the past two decades, Amy has also been sober—a decision she made at 24, after years of hard partying and some sexual close calls. Plus, drinking was getting in the way of her career. “The final drink of my life was before an audition,” Amy remembers. “I was absolutely terrible and I was like, ‘I’m not going to be able to do what I want to do for a living if I continue down this path.'” 

 

Before being cast on Transparent, Amy worked as a voiceover actor—and voice double. Don’t know what that is? Watch this video from New York magazine. Get ready to be amazed. 

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I Get Paid to Write About Sex

..and it has nothing to do with this blog. Which isn’t to say that I haven’t made money from this blog. But I am not so awesome (like Epiphora!) to have made it my job. I do get paid to write about sex, though, even if I’m not directly paid to write about sex toys. […]

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Making Sense of Dating, Sex and the Internet with Chase & Hunter Candles

Being a woman in her 30s in 2016 is a bag of mixed nuts, to say the least. I didn’t grow up with smartphones, but I am fluent using them. I’ve watched the Internet move from home pages and forums to Facebook and Tinder (which has resulted in a brand-new wave of dating mistakes). Voice […]

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A Toy a Day #4: Miracle Massager

The Miracle Massager was the fist wand massager that I ever tried, and it remains the one that I use most consistently. That is, to say,  I reach for it when I want to get off quickly with external pressure and without needing to strip down or lube up. It’s not that often; although, I’ve […]

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